Be More ‘Interesting’ in Every English Conversation You Have

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The English Conversation Skills You Are Missing

Making friends in a foreign language seems easy at first…

But you can always feel how your speaking delays, missing words and the weird ways you have to explain things continue to make you feel like an outsider in a crowd that you want to fit in with.

It took some time for me to figure out exactly what is missing from our conversation abilities but I’ve got an answer. I’ve also included a speaking practice activity that you can add to your study sessions to get one step closer to having better English conversation experiences so that native speakers will want to spend more time with you! 🙂

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Stop thinking like an English Learner

When you get together with your friends, it’s a lot of fun. At the end of the night you know that you had a good time but… what exactly did you talked about for all those hours?

It’s small talk.

You tell stories. Talk about random stuff that you’ve seen recently. Anything that has been Interesting or something that has happened to you.  Really, anything that is mildly entertaining and worth mentioning.

It’s about sharing your experiences and telling it like a really interesting story. As if your friends were there with you.

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It seems like it takes years of studying English just to be able to have a simple English conversation. The idea of hanging out with a group of native speakers laughing and joking like you do with your friends and family feels like a distant dream.

When you finally get the basics down to hold a conversation, the focus changes to effective communication. If you can just understand other people and have them understand you, everything should be good.

Once you are finally able to communicate, it seems like everything else should happen easily. There is another stage where you need to learning the art of casual English conversation.

Even if ‘sounding like a native speaker’ has always been your goal, this is the time where you really start to grow towards that natural way of communicating. To react naturally reaction to a joke with a witty comment or blurt out phrases while you play a game.

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Start Telling More Stories

Stories should be descriptive, interesting and above all… entertaining. Good storytellers sound interesting when they tell the stories. You have to speak like you want people to listen to you. Using tone, passion, suspenseful pauses and enthusiasm at the right times, the same way that you would in your native language.

This takes practice, just like any other aspect of English. The good news is that there is no shortage of experiences you can talk about to practice your ‘storytelling’.

This is what our student Abushanib said about the speaking practice activity I am about to recommend to you:

(Hint: This is why you need to DO the activity, not just read about it :))

“Dear Amy. You’re right about this!
I applied what you’ve said about repeating it three times and I realize there was a great deal of improvement.
I highly appreciate your beautiful work. Thanks a lot.

Medical Student , Iraq

Speaking Practice Activity

Think about a story you would probably tell your friend or a family member. Something interesting that happened recently. Someone you’ve seen, somewhere you went, something you watched recently… whatever. Just think of some experience that is worth talking about. Something that is interesting to you.

Practice talking about it in English the way you would in an everyday conversation with your friends or a co-worker during your break. You don’t need anyone to speak with either. Explain it to yourself. Practice telling the story knowing that nobody is listening or judging you while you think and figure things out.

You will quickly see that you are missing some words or you don’t like how you are explaining things. There’s a struggle to fill the gaps when you are thinking.

Stop and look up these words or phrases when you get stuck… and try again! Repeat your sentences when your are not satisfied with how fluently you explained it. Above all, practice explaining it with the same detail and the same way that you talk about things in your native language.

Not only is this is a fun way to practice speaking, it’s going to help your social skills in English as well. This really is the secret to being an interesting person to talk with. Tell stories that are interesting and people will want to talk to you more. This is the first step to long-lasting friends (with native speakers)!

Do you think this idea could be your secret weapon to speaking ‘casually’ and in a more interesting way? I’d love to hear your opinion! Leave a comment below. 

Learning to Speak English – Knowledge vs. Skills

Have you ever learned a new sport? When you speak English, it kind of feels the same…

how to speak english betterLearning a language is a really interesting process and sometimes it can help to think about something from a different perspective. I wanted to share a comparison between learning English and learning a new sport to try to explain how speaking uses a different part of the brain, which is why it feels so difficult to speak English in the beginning.

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Let’s Learn How to Ski!!

I am Canadian, so I am going to talk about a very popular sport that we enjoy doing in the mountains during the winter. If you decided you wanted to learn how to ski, the best advice would be to get a lesson so you have some knowledge about what you need to do with your body to successfully ski down a hill.

Knowledge or Facts You Need to Ski: The instructor wants to make sure you know how to turn and stop. So, he tells you to put more pressure on your right leg to start turning as soon as you start to go down the hill.

Developing the Skills: The first time you try to do this, you start putting pressure on your leg, but the ski does not turn very much and you fall down to stop. However, after trying to do the same thing several times, you learn how to turn to do a turn and stop!

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Comparing Skiing to English Speaking

In order to speak English you need to start with some basic cactus studying englishknowledge (which you already have), such as basic pronunciation, some vocabulary and a few grammar rules like how to conjugate a verb.

The ‘knowledge’ of the words and how to put them together in a sentence is information that is stored in one part of the brain. However, when you try to speak English you are trying to do an ‘action’ based on the knowledge you have. You are refering to your English knowledge, one piece at a time, while you try to speak out loud.

Every time that you use a new word or grammar structure while speaking, you are developing your speaking ‘skills’. Skills are developed when you use ‘knowledge’ with ‘action’. At first, speaking is slow and uncomfortable, but the more often that you use the most common words and grammar structures, it becomes easier!

Ski Lesson #2 – Advancing your Skills 

Once you have learned how to turn and stop, you need to learn how to connect your turns without stopping. Your instructor will give you more of the ‘knowledge’ that you will need to attempt that activity. As you try to connect the turns, you are thinking about how you are supposed to do the activity until you develop the skills to just do it.

Speaking With Having to ‘Think’

group speaking englishThe first time you learn a new skill skiing, you have to think about every single movement because you are trying to apply the knowledge that your instructor gave you to develop a certain skill.

When you first start trying to speak English you will also need to think about every word you use and how to correctly use the grammar until you are comfortable with using those words.

The cool thing is that after you use the same words and verbs over and over again… you don’t have to think about them as much. If you practice speaking enough, you will be able to respond most of the time without thinking about vocabulary or grammar.


Active Vocabulary vs. Passive Vocabulary

Have you ever noticed that when you try to speak, very often you cannot remember a certain word? But, when you hear that same word or you see it while reading, you recognize it. That is the difference between active vocabulary and passive vocabulary.

Active vocabulary is the set of words that you can instantly recall when speaking. You don’t need to stop and remember what the word is before saying it. Having active vocabulary shows that you have practiced speaking and have developed speaking ‘skills’.

Passive vocabulary is the type of vocabulary that you have stored in the ‘knowledge’ department of your brain. You might be able to remember it eventually, but you have to stop your speaking in order to remember it.

activate your english vocabularyPassive vocabulary is basically useless when you are speaking. It is like reading about ‘how to ski’ compared to trying to ski down a hill. The facts you learned about skiing, do not make you a good skier.  You need to train your body how to react without thinking.

Once your brain has used vocabulary or grammar it is easier to recall for the next time it is needed. You have started to activate the vocabulary which makes it easier to use every time you need it.


The Fastest Way to ‘Activating’ Your English Knowledge

Trying to speak English is the fastest way to use vocabulary in an active way. The good news is that you can practice speaking about anything and you don’t even need a practice partner. Look up the words you do not know or cannot remember and immediately use them in several sentences.

Easy Activities

Start by trying to talk about what you are doing now, what are your plans for later in the week or what you did yesterday.

More Challenging Topics

Watch a video, listen to some audio or read about something. Try to explain what the topic was about. Start with a general summary of 2 or 3 sentences, later try to give as much detail as possible.

When you start to recognize the difference between ‘knowing’ English and ‘using’ English, it can help you understand why it feels so difficult. Keep in mind the comparison to learning a new sport and you should have more patience with the process of developing your speaking skills.

Do you think speaking in English is like a sport? What did you think about this article? Leave a comment below.

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Speaking Practice Activity: Ice Road Truckers Improve English Speaking Skills

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In this lesson, we are going to use an interesting video about a very dangerous job which is called ice road trucking. We are going to show you how to improve English speaking skills with this practice activity.

Step 1: Watch the video about how to improve your English speaking skills using this lesson.

Step 2: Watch the interesting and suspenseful video about ice road truckers and see what their dilemma is.

Step 3: Watch the last video which has questions for you to answer and practice using the new vocabulary about this interesting topic. You will also hear how a native speaker would answer the questions so you can learn some new phrases and additional words.

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Related Vocabulary

  • Semi-truck: A commercial truck that is designed to pull a trailer with a heavy load
  • Current: Flowing or moving water
  • Trucker: The person who drives large trucks that transport or haul prodcuts
  • Crack: To break without complete separation of the parts. A crack in a glass, looks like a line.
  • Loader: A machine that is used to move dirt or other materials.
  • Stuck: Not being able to move. Unstuck: When you are able to move after being stuck.

Questions to Answer:

  1. Why is the ice weak?
  2. Why did the truck get stuck?
  3. How thick to you think the ice has to be in order to support a semi truck and it’s trailer?
  4. What did they do to get the truck unstuck?
  5. Why do you think that these trucks are driving across frozen lakes and rivers?
  6. How would you feel if you were driving a semi truck and it started to break through the ice?
  7. How much would someone have to pay you to do this job?
  8. What aspects of truck driving are dangerous in winter conditions?

Please leave a comment with what you thought about this activity to help you improve your speaking skills. This is a new lesson style for us and we want to hear from you!